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March 02, 2004
some people just like being married
clearly, i'm not one of them.
i have a friend named val who i know through volkswagen stuff. steph and i visited her in austin after roswell last year, because she wasn't able to make it to the car show and we wanted to see her. she'd just moved back home after divorcing her husband.
while we were visiting, of course we wound up discussing boys and girls and dating in general. val showed us the personal ad of one guy that she was interested in, but shy about contacting.
well, we kinda talked her into writing to him.
and now they're getting married.
i used to be quite judgemental of people who wanted to get married; perhaps as a result of my family history, i had a rather jaundiced view of marriage. it seemed at best unnecessary; at worst, a trap that kills the soul of the participants.
i've mellowed out a lot over the years on the subject. oddly, i think i got a lot out of watching 'mad about you', which is essentially the inspection of a marriage. it's fascinating to me that two deeply flawed people-- as all people are deeply flawed-- might choose to stay together, not because they cannot survive on their own, but because they simply wish to.
that's the modern face of marriage, of course. women can be completely independent for their entire adult lives if they so choose-- they don't need a man to support them. men don't need a servant at home to run the household. we have our urban families to keep us company. and yet, people continue to choose married life. and some people even thrive within it.
anyway, congratulations to val and her fiance. hopefully i'll get to meet him in june.
Posted by lisa at March 02, 2004 09:35 AM | TrackBack
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